If you're navigating a separation or divorce in Ontario, one of the most important documents you'll create is a parenting plan. Whether you call it a parenting agreement, custody agreement, or access schedule, this document outlines how you and the other parent will raise your children going forward.
Courts in Ontario strongly prefer when parents can arrive at these arrangements themselves — it shows cooperation and puts the child's needs first. A well-written plan can also prevent future disputes by making expectations crystal clear.
What Is a Parenting Plan?
A parenting plan is a written agreement between two parents that covers how decisions are made about the child and how time is shared. It can be informal (between the two of you) or formal (filed with the court as a consent order). Either way, the more specific and child-focused it is, the more effective it will be.
What Should a Parenting Plan in Ontario Include?
Ontario courts look for plans that address all the major aspects of a child's life. Here's a comprehensive checklist:
Who makes major decisions about education, healthcare, religion, and extracurricular activities? Will decisions be made jointly, or does one parent have final say in certain areas?
Day-to-day schedule including which days the child is with each parent, overnight arrangements, and school pickup/drop-off logistics.
Statutory holidays, school breaks, Christmas, summer, birthdays, Mother's Day / Father's Day, and family events. Alternate year arrangements are common.
How will you communicate? How quickly must each parent respond? Specify the preferred platform (email, app like OurFamilyWizard, etc.).
When not with a parent, how often and how can the child contact them? Agree to not block or monitor these calls.
How much notice is required for travel? Are there restrictions on international travel without consent? What's the process if one parent wants to relocate?
Who must be notified? Who consents to treatment? How are emergencies handled when the other parent can't be reached?
Timelines and considerations for introducing new romantic partners to the children. This can prevent significant conflict down the road.
If you disagree on something not covered in the plan, what's the process? Mediation before court? A specific mediator agreed upon in advance?
💡 Pro Tip
The more specific your plan, the less room for disagreement later. Vague language like "reasonable access" has led to countless court battles. Be precise about times, locations, and expectations.
What Makes a Strong Parenting Plan?
Ontario family courts and mediators consistently see the same qualities in effective parenting plans:
- Child-focused language — Frame every clause around what works best for the child, not what's convenient for the parents
- Flexibility provisions — Life changes. Build in a review clause (e.g., annually or when the child's school changes)
- Clarity on transition logistics — Where does handoff happen? Who drives? What does the child bring?
- Tone of mutual respect — Aggressive or negative language in a parenting plan reflects poorly in court
Do You Need a Lawyer to Write a Parenting Plan?
Not necessarily. Many parents in Ontario create their own parenting plans — especially when they're in basic agreement and want to avoid costly legal fees. However, having the document reviewed by a lawyer before signing, or having it filed as a consent order, adds legal weight and enforceability.
At One Stop Therapy Shop, we offer legal document preparation support to help self-represented parents in the GTA and Oshawa area draft clear, comprehensive parenting agreements. We're not lawyers, but we help you get organized and document-ready.
Taking Care of Yourself While You Negotiate
Parenting plan negotiations can be emotionally charged. Even when both parties want the best for the children, fear, grief, and communication breakdowns make these conversations hard. Getting therapeutic support during this time isn't a luxury — it's a smart strategy.
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Key Takeaways
- A parenting plan covers decision-making, schedules, holidays, communication, and more
- The more detailed and child-focused your plan, the less room for future conflict
- You don't need a lawyer to write one, but legal review adds enforceability
- Ontario courts view cooperative parenting plans very favourably
- Your wellbeing during this process matters — don't neglect it
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Disclaimer: This blog post is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. For advice specific to your situation, please consult a licensed family law lawyer in Ontario.